Writing this letter of reference for Vonda Dennis is both a pleasure and the discharge of a significant debt. I owe Vonda a great deal. Indeed, it is difficult to be precise about the extent of my debt to Vonda inasmuch as I identify my learning time with her last year as absolutely central to the beautiful relations that I have come to enjoy with my young son and daughter (fraternal twins) today. In particular, Vonda taught me something which one might suppose is unteachable - to be comfortable with a new life.
When we first began working with Vonda, I as an older father spoke candidly about the fact that I needed help especially with feeling physically comfortable with a little baby whose fragility seemed insurmountable to me. Vonda worked with me both through discussion and the use of learning aids, such as replica baby. Through what I consider to be unbelievable patience and willingness to suspend judgment, Vonda helped me to discover the physical confidence which I now think must be natural to a new father. An incidental beneficiary of this enhanced confidence was my wife Linda, because I moved into a position from which I could be useful with respect to the overwhelming task of caring for twins.
Vonda also worked with me and my wife with respect to a host of practical skills, ranging from putting on a draper to infant first aid and CPR. In all instances, what shone through was Vonda's enthusiasm and ability as a teacher. No question was too odd for her consideration. No concern was too remote to draw a patient response.
I must also mention the relation that Vonda and Linda have developed. Linda still calls Vonda with a host of questions and Vonda is still unfailingly accessible and patient. Linda and I both have great confidence in her recommendations and in practical matters her authority in our household rivals that of Dr. Benjamin Spock.
Vonda made a great positive contribution to my growth as a father. She has my sincere thanks and high commendation for that.
At 7 months, Spenser is now sleeping 12 hours in his crib with no night feedings. I watch him on the monitor as he stirs sometimes then goes right back to sleep. It's a beautiful thing. Thanks to Vonda and to Dan for bringing her to us - Spenser is a great sleeper and a happy, well rested little boy!! (and I'm sleeping too!!)
Vonda worked with me both through discussion and the use of learning aids, such as replica baby.
Through what I consider
to be unbelievable patience and willingness to suspend judgment, Vonda helped me
to discover the physical confidence which I now
think must be natural to
a new father.